Or at least look like it....
A lot of people tell me that I have it all together. That I am never stressed out or disorganized or out of sorts. That I am never falling behind or running to keep up. And my answer is always the same... it looks like I have it all together because I have a lot of things in place everyday to keep me that way. While that doesn't mean that I am never behind the 8 ball, it does mean that I don't have to run to keep up as often. Here are some tips on how to have it all together, or at least look like you do.
"Every minute you spend planning, saves at least 10 minutes in execution." says Brian Tracy. Planning out your day or week in advance is an absolute necessity if you want to feel more organized. Sit down on Sunday afternoon and look at the week ahead of you. What needs to get accomplished? What needs to be purchased? What errands, phone calls, emails, tasks have to be done? What can wait? Plan out your week. Start with the things that have to be done, and fill in with the rest. Use a grocery pick up or delivery service to save time. Drop off your dry cleaning on the way to the office instead of making a special trip. Plan easy dinners that take no time at all to prepare.
Put everything away.
Don't just put things down, put them away. If the scissors go in a drawer, put them in the drawer when you are finished, not on the counter. Hang your keys on the hook or find a cute dish to put them in, and always put them there. Put receipts in a small box in your office until you are ready to shred them; don't let them pile up in your purse. If everything has a place, you will always know where to find it. You will never waste time again looking for your sunglasses.
Don't be late.
I have said it before, and I will say it again. Don't be late. When you are late, it says that your time is more important than everyone else's time. Plan in time for traffic. Plan in time for walking from your car. Plan in things you can expect. If there is a road closure, or your house catches on fire, then you have an excuse. If you just tried to fit in one more email before you left, then you don't have an excuse. Set alarms for yourself if you need to, but don't be late.
Trust other people with tasks.
Designate whatever you can. Everyone in my house has tasks that they are expected to accomplish. If I am honest, I still do most of the tasks around here, but not all of them. My kids help with dinner. They make their own lunches every single day. They figure out their own breakfasts. They make their beds (Sort of, as you can see above). They do their own laundry. My husband deals with his stuff. I know that some of this stuff doesn't meet my expectations, but I am looking for help, not perfection. Also, you don't have to say yes every time the school asks for volunteers. Let the other moms and dads have a chance at math centers. They will do just as good a job as you.
Believe that getting it done is more important than getting it perfect.
I cannot stress this enough. I don't have time for perfection. We are all too busy for that. A rotisserie chicken from the store and raw broccoli with ranch dressing is still a healthy dinner. Tossing all the socks into a drawer, unmatched but clean, is just as good as rolling them into balls, but it takes up way less time. Jammies don't need to be folded.
“A primary reason people don’t do new things is because they want to do them perfectly – first time. It’s completely irrational, impractical, not workable – and yet, it’s how most people run their lives. It’s called The Perfection Syndrome.” ~ John-Roger and Peter McWlliams.
Finish a task, and don't worry about it being perfect.